This is a Topic that I felt compelled to write about. This topic needs more attention in the medical community. It may be discussed on your last doctors appointment, really quickly. What I'm talking about is Postpartum depression. You're not crazy, you're not extra, you're not having separation anxiety when you miss your child, you're not anything else people that don't understand want to label you as. Its more common than its talked about.
I remember my doctor saying on my last appointment....... well I don't remember much because life was happening so slow but so fast at the same time.
I wish there was so much more attention given to mothers after child birth. I wish PPD was explained and taught to MEN better. Ive asked several of my male friends with children if they knew what PPD was and surprisingly they said NO. Your significant other or family who is around the most after child birth may not understand what is going on. Why? because they're a man and well, they're a MAN. Not taking anything away from fathers. However, dads will never understand the bond a mother has created while carrying a child for 9 months in side her body. The extreme hormone changes.The massive weight gain & not feeling beautiful everyday during the process. Not being able to sleep on your stomach and actually losing sleep starts before child birth. Getting up to use the bathroom every 3 min. this process alone takes a toll on you not only physically but mentally as well.
why don't they talk about mental health while carrying a child? carrying a child is one of life's most beautiful, delicate and terrifying experience all in one.
We prepare for baby by taking vitamins, baby yoga, baby aerobics, getting the nursery ready, cute baby clothes, diapers etc. no one talks about getting your mind right. no one talks about the amount of hormonal changes a woman is going through. no one talks about what happens after delivery.
First, I want to give a medical explanation on what PPD is. I found an article on NIH that explain it well.
what is postpartum depression?
Postpartum depression is a mood disorder that can affect women after childbirth. Mothers with postpartum depression experience feelings of extreme sadness, anxiety, and exhaustion that may make it difficult for hem to complete daily care activities for themselves or for others.
What causes postpartum depression?
After childbirth, the levels of hormones (estrogen and progesterone) in a woman’s body quickly drop. This leads to chemical changes in her brain that may trigger mood swings. In addition, many mothers are unable to get the rest they need to fully recover from giving birth. Constant sleep deprivation can lead to physical discomfort and exhaustion, which can contribute to the symptoms of postpartum depression.
What I would suggest is after child birth women should have follow up doctor appointments, with a therapist. At least, 2-3 appointments and have the professional evaluate the woman's mind state. In the article it says only a doctor can diagnose you with PPD. However, your doctor tells you on your last GYN appointment and whoever you go with a quick over view of what the signs of PPD are. My male friends said they don't even remember having that conversation. This is 4 weeks after child birth. You're sleep deprived. Baby may be crying during the whole appointment and everyone in the office is in Awww of your new born. So, now your asking a unlicensed professional to know the signs of PPD and a women who may be facing PPD to vocalize " I HAVE PPD". REALLY?