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3 tips for growth

Three practical tips for self growth.

I've had my years self reflection, and self growth. I'm not that old nor am I perfect, But I am owning the wisdom I have acquired over the years. Years of wanting, learning and showing up as the best version of SHINELLE. I've read books, sat with therapist, grown in my relationship with Christ and three themes that seem to be reoccurring in each setting. That may help one become a better version of themselves are.

  1. COMMUNITY. as I write this we are currently in a pandemic. we are cautious about engaging with people or even hugging our loved ones. This season of our lives definitely doesn’t help with trying to grow in community .We were not designed to do life alone. God could've kept Adam in the garden solo dolo but he gave him EVE. All through out the Bible we are encouraged to get in community. HEBREWS:10 24-25, GALATIANS 6:2 (bear on another burdens), MATHEW 18:20 (where two or more gather there am I among them). Get into community . Lean on the people GOD has placed around you. Now more than ever we need each other. Get to know who is around you. You never know how someone can help you or how you can help someone else. Getting into community can help you heal from trauma. Community of like mind individuals can help you see blind spots in your life that may stopping you from growing.

  2. VULNERABILITY : This word can be very scary for some. Put down your guards and engage with the your community. Be truthful and transparent. Trust me your story isn’t a first. Someone over came the same situation and may have practical steps you can learn from. JESUS over came the world. James 5:16 Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working. Vulnerability will allow you to grow pass your insecurities. We all have things we are dealing with. No one is perfect. Vulnerability will allow you to put down shame.

  3. COMMUNICATION: proper communication is the icing on the cake for community and vulnerability. Simply put, expressing your true feelings, Speaking in love and uplifting others will allow you and those around you to grow. Life and death is in the power of the tongue. (Proverbs 18:21). We have to be mindful of our words. Words are like good medicine. You can heal or hurt with words. Yes, words are that powerful. Communication allow you to be direct in the things you like or dislike upfront. Which will create healthy boundaries that are necessary for peace.

which one of these will you start working on today?


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